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Wednesday, November 21st, 2007
12:24 am - Hi and a question

hella_pringles
I was adopted out of Nicaragua when I was two months old back in 1978. Many things about my adoption went wrong. Because I was adopted out of the country and through an adoption club I was separated from my twin sister. I've heard of this happening before. I grew up with a very loving father who pasted away when I was 20. My adopted mom on the other hand is a counselor. When you think about that you tend to think about a person who is caring and wants to help others. This is NOT my adopted mom. She was extremely abusive physically, emotionally and sexually. By no means did I have that little orphan annie dream come true. I just turned 29 years old and the years of abuse at least emtionally and some physically have lasted up until now. I have stopped having anything to do with her. Now that my father is gone and I'm basically alone besides having my own daughter. I have this need. I want a family. I want a mother even as old as I am now. I want to know what that's like. A home without abuse. A mother who I can call when I have good news or bad.

I feel like my life has been determined by the adoption papers and I want to break free. I want a new start. So My question is do you think anyone would want to adopt and adult child. I don't want this for any financial assisance. I know I can't erase my past and for goood or bad it's shaped who I have become. Am I crazy for even thinking about seeing if anyone would. I was thinking someone who have wanted to adopt but never or couldn't for one reason or another. If you could please give me your opinions it would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.
Lauren

current mood: scared

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Tuesday, October 23rd, 2007
2:20 am - Hello

six_dollar_baby
Hello, i'm new here.

Adopted in the state of Wisconsin in 1981. i have three pages of non-ID and most of that deals with my infant feeding-schedule.

Adoptions handled by the State (at the time) were closed, and remain so. Any tips on searching?

current mood: ??

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Tuesday, October 9th, 2007
3:18 pm - UK adoptees

orphan_daughter
Are there any UK adoptees here and would any one be interested in joining a uk specific forum (not on lj) for adoptee support and adoption reform? I just want to get numbers really to see if its worth while setting one up

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Sunday, May 22nd, 2005
3:11 pm - Closed Adoption Community

reginafuroris
Please share with those who might be interested. *Moderators*: Please delete if this is inappropriate.
Closed Adoption CommunityCollapse )

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Friday, May 6th, 2005
11:47 am - adoption debate

14pearl84
HI I would like to extend an invitation to join adoption_debate. It is a community for debating adoption issues. All triad members and those touched by adoption in anyway are welcome to join.

I started this community because the previous community had been deleted and closed. It has also been reopened .

Please pardon my crossposting. If this is innapropriate please let me know or feel free to remove it from the community.

thanks in advance,
Kristen

current mood: chipper

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Saturday, March 5th, 2005
1:34 am

demon_distorted
Hi, I'm new here. This is my first poem that I'm posting so tell me what you think. Before you look I'll warn you it's a long one.

How Much Do You Get Paid, To Do This ShitCollapse )

current mood: crushed

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Tuesday, March 1st, 2005
10:57 am

nikso23

My name is Nikolett (31), I married Brett (33), the man of my dreams little over 6 years ago.

We both wanted to have children from the start.  4 yrs ago we found out that our chances to conceive naturally are very limited.

At that time we lived in Florida (he is American, I am Hungarian), and knowing the costs of IVF in th US we decided to move to Hungary for one year to do IVF, since it is not so expensive.  After 4 IVF did was not able to get pregnant, and the 5th try could've cost my life.  In the meantime (2yrs ago) we got all of our paperwork ready for adoption, but there are only a few agencies here and only one would work with mixed citizens.  I would've gone back to try IVF one more time, but Brett didn't want to hear any of it, saying that I was more important then to get pregnant.  (No wonder I married him!!) 

I have a wonderful gyno, who found out about our plans of adoption back in October of last year.  He told me that sometimes young girls come to the hospital, wanting to give their babies up for adoption, and he would let us know if we are really interested. Of course I was in heaven just from the thought of a baby. 

Anyway, I sent a nice text message to my gyno's cell phone on Jan 3rd (Monday morning), to wish him a happy new year.  Not even a minute later my phone rang and it was him calling back.  He said he wanted to call me that afternoon (perfect timing), because he got a call about another girl who wanted to give her baby up.  At that time he hasn't examined her, but with the dates from the girl the baby was due around the end of February.  The birthmom hasn't seen a doctor at all, she didn't know she was pregnant until December.  He told me he's expecting the birthmom to come for examinations in a week or two. 

Of course we're thinking 2 months, we have to get everything ready, situated etc., but we don't even know for sure if this is all for real.

It was the longest 12 days of our lives until Jan 15th (about 5:45pm), when my gyno called, that the birthmom is going in to the hospital for check up and he would call me with details later, but the due date changed to be Febr 15th, now that he was able to talk to the b.mom.

Of course I started calling our family to let them know that we finally heard from the b.mom. Everybody was happy that there were some news.

Around 6:45pm my phone rang again showing the familiar number (gyno), here I am thinking that we'll find out if everything is ok, baby's healthy, girl or boy? 

Well, that's not exactly what he had to say.

He told me to get in the car NOW, because "we're" in labor!!!!!!! Brett and I got to the hospital within 30 minutes. Of course panicking the whole time, we didn't start buying anything yet, first we wanted make sure that there is going to be a baby for us.

Our little girl was born at 7:45pm, (all along I knew it would be a girl!) she was the most beautiful baby I have ever seen. 3400 gramms, 49 cm.

They asked if we have a name? Yes, we have considered names of course (we had 6 years to think about it after all), but suddenly only one came to mind, that Brett and I just thought of that week... Izabell.

We brought Izabell home on Jan 26th, (some extra paperwork needed to be filed etc.., that's why the delay) and we keep on falling in love with her more and more every day!

We've been home for over a month now, but sometimes I look at her and still can't believe how lucky we are to have her.

This is our story.



current mood: ecstatic

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Saturday, February 12th, 2005
3:24 pm
mandaboon Hey everyone...

Im doing a project for nursing school and I need some input on it. Being that everyone here is related to adoption, I thought it would the perfect place to ask!

Its about the law on how mothers can drop off their baby at a hospital or local law enforcement agency, no questions asked and can walk away.

Now, I like this idea, only for the fact that hopefully it will keep mothers from killing/disposing of or whatever else they decide to do, since they dont want to be a mother. However, from an adoptee's point of view, Im slightly disgusted with the fact that NO questions are asked. Years down the road, when this child starts to ask questions, how will it be knowing they were just 'abandoned'? There will be no medical history for them, no way to know their family history, their roots, anything. And I also wonder...if these mothers didn't want to be mothers, how many of them actually received medical care during their pregnancy? How many of them actually took their pregnancy seriously and didn't use drugs, or drink, or any other behaviors that can affect their unborn child. And now, how many of these abandoned children have medical problems, birth defects, or mental issues?

So what Im asking of all of you, is how you feel about this child abandonment law, do you think its effective, do you think its ethical, how would you feel if you were one of the children who was abandoned, any input you have on this issue. I would SOOOOO greatly appreciate it.

I will let everyone know how my project turns out after I'm done with it.

You can email me personally at DorsalPhin@aol.com if you dont want to post a comment here.

Thanks for the help!!!

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Saturday, December 4th, 2004
3:02 am - Help me write a book about abused Orphan Train Children

white_swan
x-posted

Hi! I'm a professor doing a large research project about the orphan train. I need a LOT of books for this project. I have an Amazon wish list. Some of the books cost as little as five dollars including shipping (if you get used copies, and I don't mind used copies AT ALL). I know it is a long whot posting it here, but if even one book is bought, it was worth it. HEre's my spiel:

My Amazon Wish List

Come on Y'all, help me write a book! My wish list is here:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/registry.html/ref=cm_wl_sortbar/002-0581594-3506452?id=27CG80WQAG8QA&items-per-page=25&sort=priority&filter=all&reveal=unpurchased&x=13&y=13


All books (except for a Jill Scott CD) have to do with a major research project I'm undertaking about the Orphan Train. The Orphan Trains were run by the Children's Aid Society in NYC, where they sent up to 250,000 to midwestern farms between mid 1800's and the mid 1900's.

My great great grandparents were "esscorts/overseers" on the orphan trains. (John Washington SWan and Hattie McKim Swan -- you can find them online)

Here is a website dedicated to historical preservation of the Orphan Trains:

http://www.orphantrainriders.com

I need these books to complete a major project. The project will look at how the children were represented in several ways: in newspaper ads, by the Children's Aid Society, by fiction books(there was a genre of Orphan Train books for 8-10 year olds), by photographs, by the orphans' own words through diaries and letters, through non-fiction historical research, and through any other media I can find, including interviews with the few still living Orphan Train riders. I really want to speak for the children in this project, who are so often portrayed as helpless or criminal urchins in need of saving, and who so often ended up as indentured servants on midwest farms.

I would appreciate it if y'all would buy me a Christmas present from this list. They run from very cheap (5 bucks or less including shipping) to more expensive (40 bucks at the most, and that is very rare).

All the info of where to send the books is in the wishlist. I <3 Amazon.com, who just gave 300 jobs to Huntington, WV, where they have a shipping plant.

Pretty please, LJ Santa Clauses? You don't even have to tell me who you are, though I'd be thrilled if you did. I love you all!

EDIT NOTE: You can buy the books new or used. Sometimes the better value is used, but remember that for every used book you buy, there is a $3.50 shipping charge added on. If you buy new books from Amazon, and you spend more than $25, shipping is FREE. Used books don't count towards that $25 total. So you kind of have to be mathematical and decide which is truly the cheapest way to go: used or new. As for me, I don't care. I love used books; I love new books; I love all books.

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Thursday, October 21st, 2004
12:04 am - Today is the day.

jen_floridagal
21 Years ago today I was a 16 year old girl who was pregnant. My daughter was born on this day, October 21st, 21 years ago. It was the day I really learned what heartache was about.
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This is cross posted in my personal journal, and everywhere else.



Thanks for listening.

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Wednesday, July 14th, 2004
7:05 pm - Hello!

plastic_venus82
I am new to the community and would like to share my story...

**I was born on December 3, 1982, in a little town in western Tennessee called Huntingdon...My mother had me in a trailer, and tried to raise me for 3 months....It did'nt work out, and she was forced to give me up...

**My father lived outta state, so there is no way of knowing who he is...According to the records, though, I look more like him than I do her...LOL!


**My mother was married before, and had 2 children, but the father (not mine) had custody of them...She had numerous children that she gave up for adoption as well!

***If yall have any info. to who this might be, please tell me. I'm really interested to hear from her!!! :)

THANKS! :)

current mood: content

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Thursday, April 22nd, 2004
10:47 am - Searching and Frustrated...

jen_floridagal
I am still searching for my daughter, who was born 10/21/83.
It is frustrating hitting one dead end after another.
I wonder if she even knows she is adopted or if she is searching for me.



Here's the story if anyone is interested..
http://www.livejournal.com/users/jen_floridagal/224971.html

current mood: frustrated

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Saturday, March 6th, 2004
10:54 am

jen_floridagal
I got this via email and am wondering if it could be legit- pls advise


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current mood: confused

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Sunday, January 25th, 2004
10:21 pm
xinfinityx I just wanted to say hi, and let you know I joined!! I'm adopted =o)

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Wednesday, January 14th, 2004
11:59 am

ellaofthecinder
Welcome to AdoptedAngels!! I hope this will be a place that you can come to and feel welcome. Tell us your stories, your life, whatever you want to tell us, feel free to do so. Let me start off by introducing myself. My name is Katie and I am a twenty year old college student. I was adopted when I was just a baby. My mother was only 17 when she had me. As of now, I do not know anymore than that of my birth parents. So, now that I have spoken, let's here about you.

Thank you, and welcome again to AdoptedAngels!

current mood: happy

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